I’ve had my fair share of sour lemons to choke down in my life, but none as final as the one I choked down recently.
It’s a given that life will not go as you plan it. There’s that saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him you have a plan”
I know this, and it does not make it sting any less. I’m not going to say to gather yourself up and regroup, bounce back, plow straight ahead: I think people focus to hard on that part to early.
Yes, of course, you shouldn’t let disappointments and rejections shoot you down for good.
But you also need to pause. Take a breath. Think about why whatever it was didn’t work out and let it hurt. Let yourself feel the burn of it, cry if you want.
And THEN get back up. Reevaluate your options.
So many times, I’ll see people ‘bounce back’ quickly from something devastating only to see them crash head long into a hole later. If you don’t deal with the sting and heartache while it’s fresh, it will just come back fiercer later.
I’m writing this for you but I’m also writing it for me.
As a reminder that it’s okay to feel it and that no one can feel it for me, or tell me when I should be ‘A-Okay’ again.
I may not be up to making any lemonade out of those lemons yet, but they’ll keep.
Shouting into the void